Welcome to Have Kids, Will Work. I’m not new to the blogging world – I started my first blog back in 2005. (It’s probably time to take it down!) I never imagined MBA Cutie would shift her focus from the fun and antics of being young, single and ready to conquer the world — to figuring out how to make it all work with beautiful family I love and an amazing job I love too!
I met my husband in business school, dropped my MBA Cutie persona, dove head first into the world of brand marketing and experienced life as a DINK in sunny Los Angeles. Then we considered what many newly married couples think about – when is the right time to start a family? We packed up our bags, moved to the San Francisco Bay area – where my husband had an opportunity join a start up and I had the opportunity to manage a seasonal chocolate brand – and to be closer to my family. One and half years later, I was pregnant and freaking out about how I was going to manage my job and being a mom. We had just purchased a home in the Bay Area, and to finance the sort of life we imagined, giving up my career or my husband giving up his just wasn’t a possibility. Besides, I wasn’t so sure I wanted to give up everything I had strived for from a professional standpoint. I had my son, shifted industries from consumer products to technology, and went back to work when he was three months old in a new position at a new company ready for a new adventure.
Playing a significant role in dual working family has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done (to date). If anyone asked me five years ago what I though the hardest thing in my life would be I would have probably answered leaving my friends behind and moving to new city where I knew no one, or the loss of a close family member. These days, hands down, the answer is being a full time working parent. And honestly, I think I may have it easy: my support system is robust since my husband contributes significantly at home and I live near the most amazingly generous parents ever. Even with these things, it’s still really hard.
You may have read my most recent article focused on the lack of women in leadership, and how to improve that pipeline. The good news is if organizations are able to adopt some of these policies, it will make being a working parent intent on pursing a leadership career a little easier. The bad news is it’s still going to be damn hard. Your heart will be split in two directions, you’ll count time in minutes and hours, and every day will feel like everything is a tradeoff and none of the choices are good. I’ve been through it, I’m going through it, and everyday I talk to women and men that are figuring it out.
I started “Have Kids, Will Work” because I wanted to create a place for working parents – at all stages of their life and careers – where I can share tips, advice, and support on how to navigate the day to day challenges. This blog is not a place to learn how to get promoted while raising a family. If you’re looking for that sort of advice, you’ve come to the wrong place. This blog is about sharing tips and frameworks that are pragmatic and realistic and can be applied immediately. I want to focus on tools that don’t rely on significant economic means, or on the premise that you are senior enough in your career where you can dictate or significantly influence corporate norms. I don’t want to assume you’re working because your career is your number one priority, and I also don’t want to assume it’s not. I want this advice to be useful and applicable – today.
So onto the name…. Why “Have Kids, Will Work”? According to Yahoo Answers, The phrase, “Have ____ will travel,” was a catchphrase used in personal advertisements in the United States and Britain in newspapers and flyers indicating that the advertiser was ready-for-anything. Well, for those us navigating work, life and kids – we’ve got what we need. I’d say we’re ready for anything.
Have Kids, Will Work